Tuesday, March 29, 2011

This blog has been about my grandson Cole, but I now must also give his little brother Cale more attention. Cale is 3 1/2 and is just as full of life as Cole but he also has learning disabilities. He only say a few words and only a few phrases and you have to listen to here those. On the upside he learns tasks pretty rapidly, understands things you say and ask him to do. He is such a cute little boy with a smile that will melt you.

He has a temper and will throw a little tantrum now and then. But he always looks to see if you are reacting the way he wants and is pretty soon smiling again.

Cale and Cole play well together and Cale wants to do everything Cole does. If Cole wnats to swing, Cale wants to swing. If Cole ask to get down, Cale immediately let's you know he wants down as well. They ride in their little cars and on their trikes.
They sometimes have little tiffs but mostly share their toys.

Cale is not as drawn to the Television and DVDs as Cole. Cale would rather play with the vacuum or climb up on the tables. He is in constant motion. Cale shows more ability to figure out the puzzles and recognize colors than Cole. Their abilities are different and we can only hope that Cale will continue to make progress to catchup.

I have been keeping up with Cole's vocabulary and his use of phrases. They are really increasing. He is up over 200 words he uses and more than 30 phrases. Cole will repeat almost any word you say, he just does not use the words other wise. He can also use a word one way but not another. Most notably his name. He will use the phrase "Cole's turn" when playing. You can ask him if his name is John Baker, he says no. You can ask him "what's your name" and barely stammers something out. Cole being unrecognizable and Bake barely so. An effect of the brain connections again.

He has a new Noah's Ark book. Cole loves books, both to read from and to attempt to eat. He will sit in my lap, holding the book and turn the pages. I point out the elephant and he would repeat elephant, then giraffes, then lion and so on. I could then ask him to find the elephant or lion or giraffe and he would turn the pages until he found the animal I ask him to find. All the time saying "find it, find it". But he does not say the animal's name without prompting.

I assume this is due to the connections in his brain being incomplete and not be able to relay the words back to be spoken. I am still learning about FX.

Cole can count to ten with the exception of 4. I watched him through the kitchen window as he push Cale in the swing. He would say "count Cale". Then he would count to Cale. One, two, three, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten. Then clap and holler "yeah!!!"

We are working on Cale, he is up to four and then he begins to laugh.

Cale is pretty much the same way. He will repeat words though not as many. Cole gives commands such as "Pappy, come here", Granny sit here", "Turn off the light". Cale does not yet. When playing with the cut out puzzles, I will give Cale a puzzle peice, say an fire truck. I will say fire truck and he repeats that although it is not that well pronounce. But then he will ask, "where does it go?" I always answer "I don't know". He then puts it in place and says, "goes here". Of the several puzzles he has he learned to put the pieces in place with just one or two tries. That is very encouraging.

They come to stay with us every couple of weeks and most every time Marcia and I can recognize things, some small and some significant, they both did not do on their last visit. One thing they both do on every visit is make their Granny and Pappy very happy. They run to hug our necks, give us kisses, sit in our laps and make us laugh.
While I wonder what life will be like for them in years to come, years that I may or may not share with them, I am comforted by their overall good nature and desire to learn.

I mostly pray that the world will learn to accept them as they are and perceptions will change for children and adults with intellectual challenges. It is easy to put children with special needs in a good place in your heart, I just hope that they will not outgrow that place as they become adults with special needs. After all we are all God's children, I have to believe they have a special place in his heart.

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1 comment:

  1. Hi Jim, This is beautiful. My Dad also has a special place in his heart and a special place on his lap for my little boy with FX and it is wonderful to hear a Grandad express his feelings so eloquently, I'm sure Cole and Cale will do well because love helps everything grow x